I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perceptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it’s important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it’s important to me to have that kind of synchrony.
I think a big one is having respect for the choices they make in their lives, from the friends they choose, the career they choose, the way they take care of their health,to the way they spend their free time. Not necessarily agreement, but an understanding and trust that they are a good person working to have a good life. If you can’t, if you look down on them in any one aspect and don’t respect their choices then that’s a good indicator the relationship won’t work because you’ll start seeing them as a project/problem to work on rather than as a equal partner to walk in hand with.
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Edwin Louis Cole
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